You can suck less in just 30 days.
This isn’t some sort of hogwash about how you’ll magically form a new habit after 21 days. You probably won’t. But if you think you suck at something right now, I can absolutely guarantee that after 30 days of doing it every single day, you will suck less. That’s pretty impressive, yes? Yes.
Sometimes the best way to approach it is to imagine that for 30 days, you’re going to find out what it takes to be the kind of person who ____________. For me, that was working out every single day. I wanted to know what kind of person did that, and when I tried it with no excuses, I realized that the difference between me and that person is that they schedule time to do that every day and that they pay attention to when their bodies need rest. And they’re hot.
The fastest way to find out what separates you from what you want to be is by doing it and seeing where the uncomfortable bits are. It’s a fast-track to weeding through your excuses and bullhockey and seeing what it takes to make change. And hey: for 30 days, you really will be that kind of person. That’s pretty cool. So here’s the deal:
1) Think of something you sincerely suck at that you want to improve. It can be writing, being physically active, spending more time with your family, reading, cooking – whatever. You can give something up or try something. It’s that thing you always say you can’t do or won’t do or can’t imagine. It’s the thing that you always wish you would be better at and secretly wonder if you could do it if you really tried. That thing.
2) Identify one thing you can do every day that will get you closer to that goal. Examples: to get better at writing, write for X amount of time every day or X amount of pages every day. To get more physically active, commit to X number of minutes working out each day. To be a better cook, commit to cook a full meal at home every single day. You can take photos, call people, create things – the world is your oyster. But pick something measurable. At the end of the day, you should be able to clearly state that you either did or did not complete your activity that day. No gray areas.
3) Tell people you’re doing it. You can certainly complete a 30 Day Challenge in silence, but I wouldn’t recommend it. It can be hard. The possibility of public shaming after your announcement can be very motivating. if you don’t want to tell anyone or you’re a hermity hermit like myself, you can always drop me a line so that you’ve put it out into the universe.
4) Conquer the monster. 30 days in a row, no cheating. 30 days. No. Cheating. We take the honor system very seriously here.
5) Share with me your glorious splendor. I would really love to add you to my little hall of fame. If you have a website and post about your experience, I’ll send folks there to read about your adventure. If you don’t have a website, I’m happy to just put your name and even a picture if you’d like. Either use this handy dandy contact form or just leave me a comment below.
You can try to be a better human or you can just keep doing what you’re doing. I certainly recommend the former.
Do it. Do it so hard. If you need ideas, inspiration, or want some tips, just hit me up on the comments or the contact form. Fly, little bird.